Powerful Ways To Change Your Life When You Feel Hopeless, Lost, and Stuck
Let’s start with a fact that no-one can deny: Life is ever-changing. Change happens every second of every minute of every hour of every day; we cannot avoid it. If we try to resist change, the harder life becomes.
We are surrounded by change, and it is changes that cause the most dramatic effects and impact on our lives. We can’t avoid it; therefore, we should try our very best to embrace it – even if changes we are experiencing have a negative effect on our lives and induce emotions and feelings we don’t want to experience.
Of course, not all change is out of our hands; we make a multitude of decisions each and every day that affect and change our lives. These changes, i.e. the ones we can control, are far easier to deal with as we have a say in what is happening; however, changes that are thrust upon on are the most difficult to deal with – and it is the latter that we shall focus on in this article. Just because unexpected things happen, doesn’t mean that we have no control over our lives and what is happening. We can take back control through an active choice to do so, regardless of how hard life becomes.
So, if you want to change your life for the good, be that because you want to makes or you’re forced into making changes, here are our top pieces of advice:
When we feel lost, it is easy to lose sight of meaning, i.e. what is important to us and why it is important.
If you find yourself feeling this way, ask yourself three things: What do you want to achieve in life? What makes you feel happy? What are your dreams and aspirations?
By having meaning, you automatically provide yourself with direction, which is essential for all us. Without, we’d all simply wander through life aimlessly without any purpose, focus or direction.
Set Yourself Goals
Finding meaning will help you reacquaint yourself with goals you may have once had; therefore, it important to ‘make hay while the sun shines’ and set yourself specific goals. Although this can be a daunting task, it is crucial to do so, even if they’re smaller, easier-to-achieve goals that will keep you occupied while you decipher bigger dreams and goals. Write down short-, medium-, and long-term goals, as this will give you a chance to reach your goals every day, week, month and year, and keep you focussed on what you want to achieve. And don’t forget, goals may change. Goals should be malleable, and you should be open to change should the need arise.
Let Go of Your Regrets
We all have regrets; however, not letting them go will only hold you back and not allow you to move on in life fully. If you spend more time thinking about past regrets than you do about the present and future, it’s vital to alter your mindset and think positively about life going forward. There is no way to change what has happened in the past; instead, you must learn from your mistakes and regrets, and use them as learning experiences that can be used to shape your life in the present and the future in a positive fashion.
Balance Your Life
Just like life is always changing, so is our health. As we age, our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual state alters. However, we are in 100% control of what we feed our mind and bodies; therefore, adopting a balanced and healthy life will help us to adapt and become more resilient to physical (and therefore) mental changes that occur as we get older. To do this, eat a healthy, balanced diet, exercises frequently and try to stay in a positive modest as much as you possibly can.
Accept Who You Are
This is one thing that every single person has to deal with on a daily basis. It’s often challenging to accept who you are – your strengths, weakness, flaws etc. – and be at one with that. However, it is something we should all strive to do as it will have a positive impact on every facet of our lives. It’s easy to put ourselves down; however, the key is to view yourself in a positive light, but also accept your flaws and work on them day by day. No-one will ever be perfect, but we can all work to being a better, more rounded person.